Why do nice people choose the wrong people to date? Though I've contemplated the right response to this endlessly, piecing several possible answers together yet never being able to find the exact one, I finally came to the realization while watching The Perks of Being a Wallflower that I was on the right track to finding the answer. The reason nice, good-hearted people choose to be with those who portray what seems like the stereotypical "wrong" person is that "we accept the love we think we deserve."
I have never been more certain about any kind of answer I've been given than I am with this one. It is true, for if we didn't think we deserved to be given less than what we really deserve, we wouldn't continue to make the choice to be with people who are giving us less than what we deserve. It's simple really.
So for those men out there who wonder why women always wonder where all the nice guys are, you don't have to sweat it. Women who choose to date the wrong kinds of guys will always wonder where all the nice guys are, and they're completely aware that they can be happier. But they're the only ones who can really do anything about changing their situation because if you're thinking of changing their mind about what they believe they deserve, this is truly a case of much "easier said than done". You can go on believing that nice guys finish last if you're one of those nice guys but be thankful that you know what you deserve. Keep in mind that we tend to stick around longer when we are aware that we have invested more of ourselves into the relationship.
I have never been more certain about any kind of answer I've been given than I am with this one. It is true, for if we didn't think we deserved to be given less than what we really deserve, we wouldn't continue to make the choice to be with people who are giving us less than what we deserve. It's simple really.
So for those men out there who wonder why women always wonder where all the nice guys are, you don't have to sweat it. Women who choose to date the wrong kinds of guys will always wonder where all the nice guys are, and they're completely aware that they can be happier. But they're the only ones who can really do anything about changing their situation because if you're thinking of changing their mind about what they believe they deserve, this is truly a case of much "easier said than done". You can go on believing that nice guys finish last if you're one of those nice guys but be thankful that you know what you deserve. Keep in mind that we tend to stick around longer when we are aware that we have invested more of ourselves into the relationship.
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